She is locating all her fury for her loss and heartbreak in you, but to an extent you are, too, says Annalisa Barbieri
My husband and I have been together for six years. He was widowed when his children were small and I met him two years after his wife died.
My own daughter lives at home and cannot live independently. She was a teenager when I met my husband and was very happy for me; we had left her father some years earlier as he was an abusive alcoholic, and there is no contact. I believe my daughter is incredibly balanced given her experiences.